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Sex Addiction Counseling: The Top 3 Myths

Sex Addiction Counseling Myth #1: Sex Addiction is About Sex

People not familiar with sex addiction often joke about it, probably because it makes them nervous and uncomfortable.   They might even say things like, “That’s an addiction I’d like to have.”  read more...

Relationship Counseling and Dating: 3 Tips

We do a lot of relationship counseling at the clinic and the topic of dating comes up often.  People have a lot of ideas about dating, most of which are negative and hopeless.  The frustration is often around unreturned calls, read more...

Porn Addiction: 6 Helpful Tips for Women on How to Deal with a Partner who Might Have it

The biggest referral source for my therapy practice is the computer. Why? Because of Internet infidelity. With one click of the keyboard, women can discover a whole world her partner is engaged in and would have never known otherwise.

It makes read more...

Marriage Counseling: 4 Keys to Finding the Best Marriage Counselor for You

Marriage Counseling Key #1: Male/Female Couples

Have Their Own Dynamics

Some relationship counselors present themselves as being equally competent in all relationship areas: male/male, female/female and male/female.  Do a little investigating before jumping to the conclusion that the marriage counselor you read more...

Couples Therapy and the 3 Secret Stages of Relationships

Couples Therapy teaches partners that every relationship goes through stages. Here’s how to recognize–and deal with–each one.

Couples Therapy Secret Stage #1—Call of the Wild

You see your partner-to-be across a crowded room, and the attraction read more...

Sex Rehab: The Top 4 Things You Need to Know

1. Sex Rehab: Healthy Sex vs. Sex Addiction

The main factors determining sexual addiction are loss of control over sexual behaviors, failed attempts to stop and persistent pursuit of self-destructive or high-risk behaviors despite the threat of serious negative consequences including read more...

Why Men Cheat – The Top 3 Reasons

Why Men Cheat – Reason Number 1: Opportunity (not the state of their marriage)        

SEXUAL FIDELITY PROBLEM: Men often cheat because an opportunity presents itself. Many men report their marriages are completely fine and satisfactory and that they are happy. They read more...

Sex Counseling – The Top 3 Reasons People Need Help

Sex Counseling – The Top 3 Reasons Men, Women and Couples Need Help

Sex Counseling and Erectile Disorders – The # 1 Problem for which Men Seek Help

Men enter sex counseling most often due to erectile disorders (ED). For read more...

Relationship Advice: The Top 3 Myths

Relationship Advice: The Top 3 Myths

Relationship Advice: The #1 Myth

It is a myth that if you make a relationship better, the sex will get better.

Many therapists who offer relationship counseling make this read more...

Imago Therapy – The Three Stages of Love

Imago Therapy: The 3 Basic Principles

Imago Therapy Principle #1

People are drawn to familiar love and our partners hold the positive and negative traits of our primary caretakers. This is why people say things like, “I feel as though read more...

What is your response-ability in communication

What is Your Response-Ability in Communication?

by Joe Kort, Ph.D.

A PDF of this article is available here

The concept of Response-Ability comes from Rick Carson’s “Taming Your Gremlin”.  Our interactions with others are dependent on taking responsibility for read more...

How to get the most from couples therapy

How To Get The Most From Couples Therapy

By Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D. Adapted by Joe Kort, Ph.D.

A PDF of this article is available here

This document is designed to help you get the most benefit read more...

Asperger’s Reading and Resources

 

 

BDSM Reading and Resources

Readings

On-line Resources for Kink & BDSM Information

ACT: AIDS Coalition Toronto: Brochure: BDSM Safer Kinky Sex

The National read more...

Introduction to men’s therapy

What are you searching for? An Introduction to Men’s Work

by Felix Paulick. All rights reserved

We are living at an important and fruitful moment now, for it is clear to men that the images of adult manhood given by the popular read more...

Turns Out The Happy Couple Is Gay

A PDF of this article is available here

By Kathleen Kelleher, Special to the LA Times (reprinted)

Clinical psychologist John Gottman, a research scientist at the University of Washington who has studied heterosexual couples for 28 years,  has tailored workshops explicitly for read more...

What Is a Fetish?

By Dr. Joe Kort

A pdf of this article is available here

A fetish is defined as erotic or sexual significance being projected onto some nonsexual inanimate object.  For every female who exhibits this disorder, there are 20 males who do which read more...

What Is Imago Relationship Therapy

A pdf of this article is available here

(IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D.  Dr. Hendrix is author of two Best Sellers “Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples,” and “Keeping the Love read more...

Out Of Control Sexual Behaviors

By Joe Kort, Ph.D.

A pdf of this article is available here

This month I am focusing on the controversy around sexual addiction.  In the psychotherapy field the debate is whether or not this is really an “addiction”.  Raising the conversation to read more...

Working With an Imago Relationship Therapist

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How does Imago Relationship Therapy differ from other types of marital therapy? There are many forms of marital therapy available that rely on teaching new skills alone in an attempt to help couples change, read more...