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"Smart sex-Smart Love" discussion series
September 11, 2017

I'm really proud about what we are creating with the, "Smart sex-Smart Love" discussion series at my psychotherapy offices. Last night we had men and women, straight, bisexual and gay, caucasian and people of color. Next month we are talking about pornography and gender differences/similarities reacting to porn as well as how it affects or impacts sexual behavior. 

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Our associate, Mark McMillan will be teaching in Royal Oak, MI
September 06, 2017

Treating Substance Abuse in LGBT Populations,

September 21, 2017 | 3:30 pm to 5:00 pm

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Does Masturbating Make You a Sex Addict? What About Porn? What About Bondage? Even the Experts Can’t Agree.
August 28, 2017

Others include Joe Kort, a sexologist and former sex-addiction therapist who has defected, and who wrote a blog in late 2015 renouncing the sex-addiction model. “I think it is... very harmful to gay and bisexual men,” Kort, who is gay, told The Daily Beast of the sex-addiction model. “It’s gotten a lot worse in the last five-to-seven years because it has gotten more religious. So they are looking at sex from a moral lens.”

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Sexual Disorientation of Male Sexual Abuse Survivors
August 14, 2017

Sexual abuse disorients you; it does not orient you. 

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Case Study: Is All Fair in Love and Sex? How Couples Can Embrace their Sexual Differences
August 01, 2017

Originally published in Psychotherapy Networker Magazine
Case Study
By Joe Kort
July/August 2017

Click here to download the article in PDF.

Most couples therapists, if they were to put aside their mask of neutrality, would agree that women are in a privileged position in therapy because they can usually access their feelings better and have a fuller command of the language for doing so, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. As a result, couples therapists often spend much of their time trying to get the man to act more like the woman, reclaiming the more feminine parts of himself to deepen his connection with his partner.

In my own work as a couples therapist, I, too, used to side automatically with the woman's values, especially the idea that relational sex—involving deep emotional connection—is what couples should be having all the time. Like many therapists, I saw nonnormative practices that involved acting out fantasies or deviating from mainstream sexual conventions as problematic, and I’d usually join with the partner who didn’t like them. For instance, I once had a client who was turned on by listening outside the bathroom door to his wife pee before they had sex. It was like a form of exciting foreplay for him, but it angered and disgusted his wife. I wound up agreeing with her and viewing his interest in engaging in that behavior as a form of pathology. Looking back, it seems a better approach would’ve been to help the couple understand the differences in the way men and women often express their attachment to each other in sex.

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