Loving a partner with Asperger’s can be both challenging and rewarding On my first date with Mike — we’ve been partners now for 24 years – he asked me “Are we on a date?” And the second date, he asked “Are we still dating? I thought it was so sweet and [...]
IMAGO Therapy & the first two Stages of Love: Romantic Love & Power Struggle This video talks about my workshops on IMAGO Relationship Therapy. I describe the first two stages of love and what attracts us to a partner and what causes conflict. The next video will be [...]
The final stage of love: Real Love Here I talk about how couples make it to real love, love that is based on reality. I talk about the turtle and the hailstorm as well as how we are attractive to familiar love. It is no accident we are [...]
Are You a High T or a Low T? Jerry and Linda came to me to help them with their marital problems. He felt that she had tricked him into marrying her by “pretending” to have a high sex drive, and believed that Linda was now withholding sex in an [...]
FROM A SCIENTIFIC PERSPECTIVE, SEX ADDICTION IS NOT REAL. Problematic sexual behavior, on the other hand, is very real and consumers need to be protected from sex addiction therapists who are not adequately trained in human sexuality. Founded in 1967, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) [...]
Looking for a Third? These Guys Are Down Read an article where I am interviewed about why straight men enjoy three-ways. ...straight men do want to have threesomes and explore their sexual boundaries. But the fact is the experiences, like the apps that enable them, can be glitchy." https://features.wearemel.com/looking-for-a-third-these-guys-are-down-10f1076fcd4#.t3rbsdcah [...]
Misandry: The Invisible Hatred of Men Men face many microaggressions that we rarely think about Misandry I been noticing more and more microaggressions toward men, but I’ve found surprisingly little discussion of this trend. There is a word most people have never heard of: Misandry, meaning hatred of men. It [...]
An Educational Post Concerning the Importance of Understanding the Severity of the Restroom Issues Transgender People Face People are born transgender. It happens while developing in utero. Every fetus starts out as “female” while developing during the 1st trimester of pregnancy. Approximately at the end of the 1st trimester/beginning of [...]
Depathologizing Sexual Eroticism Understanding why men's and women's erotic identities are so different It’s a story I’ve heard many times in my practice. A marriage is going along just fine until the day a wife discovers that her husband has been watching Internet porn, porn that bears little resemblance to [...]
Relationship Counseling – 3 Tips to Improve Your Relationship (When You are the Only One in Counseling) What if you want to improve your relationship, but your partner will not come along? Can you still improve your relationship better without the help of your partner coming to therapy [...]